First of all...Are you Forward Focused??? There are many people in this world that are negative and very few that are positive. There are many negative words that people use to describe things and that is exactly how the words when said make people feel, negative. Some words include:
stupid, terrible, can't, dumb, awful, ridiculous, hate, sucks, lame, ugly
Instead of using such negative words everyday we need to lift our positivity with positive words like:
can, will, awesome, yes, love it, magic,improvement, great, strength, grateful, love
At school we are learning all the time and people may say that we make mistakes in coloring or cutting a clients hair. Never tell someone they made a mistake. Mistakes is a negative word. So we don't say that, we say discoveries! What a positive word! We made a discovery not a mistake! Being positive makes us excited to learn, if were told that we are making mistakes all the time we begin to have negative feelings. If we are told we made a discovery, we learned about what we did and therefore are more educated for the future. Discovering new things makes learning fun!
The next thing I wanted to talk about is the 3 Laws of The Mind.
Law 1: You can only focus on one thing at a time.
Sure everyone says that you can multi task, but really you can't. You can talk on the phone and drive. But really how well. Either you are not fully paying attention to the conversation because your driving, or your not fully paying attention to the road because your on the phone. The quality of the tasks are not as great as they would be if done separately.
Law 2: You can't avoid a don't
Your whole life there are always people telling you don't do this don't do that. Especially with children, we tell them don't all the time.
Example: Don't go in the street.
Immediately the child wants to because he can't resist.
Instead say: Don't go in the street or a car may come and not see you because your small, and it can hit you and squish you.
So it's not really that we can't say Don't, we just need to emphasize and explain and tell them the consequence, and then they will avoid it... if they are smart.
Law 3: You move toward what you focus on
In school we F.A.C.E each other and celebrate victories.
Find what is working.
Enjoy your victory.
Are my Behaviors matching my values?
Everyone had values, or things they Value but is our behavior supporting that.
Here are some things that I Value:
These are just a few things. I sat down and really thought about whether or not my behavior was matching. It was not. As I wrote down health... I was eating hot cheetos and cake! School... I was slacking off.... knowledge, I was watching TV instead of reading good books. So as I did this exercise I saw that my behaviors were not matching. I am working on this and making sure that my behavior matches so that I can honestly say that I value these things. I think everyone should do this exercise and see what they learn.
* Take time to find the value in all lessons learned.
* It is none of your business what other people think of you.
* Learning is change that requires growth.
* Many People fail because their plan is beyond their ability to execute and follow through....take baby steps... what 10% shift can you make towards your plan?
* What is the best thing that happened to you today?
If you ask someone this question you will be surprised what they will tell you and how excited they will get to tell you, they have been dying to share!. It can build relationships, and make people feel like you care and are invested in their feelings.
Well that's a little taste of the Paul Mitchell culture! Hope you enjoyed and learned something! I sure did! Let me know what you think!